tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5600445340685091763.post4211633083781832212..comments2023-05-30T00:56:44.744-07:00Comments on Parental Hades: The parental guilt comes creeping back....MomofMethAddicthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06552040973389275419noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5600445340685091763.post-86190927645920426952011-08-06T11:21:15.708-07:002011-08-06T11:21:15.708-07:00I went walking and ran into a neighbor of mine. We...I went walking and ran into a neighbor of mine. We started talking and she eventually told me that her sister is a recovered heroin addict but her brother is still addicted and living on the streets. She said that she used to buy him food, etc. to help him out, but she realized that even something as innocent as a sandwich is harmful to his recover if he doesn't want the recovery, yet. The reason being the money he saves himself not buying his own sandwich, is money he will use for drugs. It sounds so harsh, but there is wisdom to that. I am devistated by the hurt parents feel. How do you disconnect? It is so hard to love and disconnect. Is it possible?Signehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709705109884838419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5600445340685091763.post-31334215199150319692011-04-21T18:48:25.456-07:002011-04-21T18:48:25.456-07:00I don't even think most kids should be conside...I don't even think most kids should be considered an adult at 18. I am writing a letter to the Judge with some things that I have found about why 30 days doesn't work since that is all he sentenced him to even though we request 9 months and WE WERE PAYING FOR IT NOT asking the Courts for State Aid or anything. I don't think our Court system purposely does this but they don't understand unless they have first hand experience. The more I read about addiction the more I realize 30 days isn't going to cut it. Maybe 90 days won't either or 6 months but it is a lot better then 30. I keep calling his PO in hopes they will arrest him soon. I know that a lot of people don't agree with what I do with my son, but if he had Cancer I wouldn't wish him luck and send him off. I hope she does get caught. I recently found out that Meth is one of the drugs that do not require detox so that is good. I worry about my son the first time he doesn't detox in the hospital or rehab but at the same time I would rather him be in jail then out on the street. Even though that won't really help him, a few months in jail may help him to want help. We never know what will help our children. <br /><br />Praying for both our children.Torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16469486624859667837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5600445340685091763.post-85103339750849570482011-04-20T04:21:48.914-07:002011-04-20T04:21:48.914-07:00Tori - I have put her in rehab twice and twice she...Tori - I have put her in rehab twice and twice she was discharged because she didn't want to be there. And that was at 15 and 16. I have called several places and no one will take her if she does not want to be there. My only option is to have a judge sentence her. She needs to be caught on her warrant so I can get in front of the judge and ask him to do that. <br />She is 17. In our state, that is a legal adult. My hands are tied. <br />And the latest, she posted on Facebook last night that she lost her dog. She is going to be devastated if she cannot find that dog...MomofMethAddicthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06552040973389275419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5600445340685091763.post-68900161091428747022011-04-19T21:48:37.564-07:002011-04-19T21:48:37.564-07:00That is so hard. No matter what I have never deni...That is so hard. No matter what I have never denied my son food either, I will take him to eat, I will let him eat here but I simply can't have him spend the night. He isn't homeless for now, will be soon so it will be interesting to see how that goes. Hang in there. Is she 17? If she is can't you force her in to treatment? I didn't think at that age they could leave? My son is always saying he is clean. I used to believe it until I read so much about addiction. It is VERY RARE that anyone can just stop but they don't need to hit rock bottom either.Torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16469486624859667837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5600445340685091763.post-36281061285092786782011-04-19T07:20:44.130-07:002011-04-19T07:20:44.130-07:00Thank you John. I tell her ALL the time that I lov...Thank you John. I tell her ALL the time that I love her and I do - with every fiber of my being! I also told her that I will help her get into treatment to help herself any time she is ready to go. She still swears to me she does not need a program. Swears she is not using. The pictures I saw that she posted on Facebook tell me different. She doesn't look healthy, but looks like she tries to put a mask on. Still in denial. :(MomofMethAddicthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06552040973389275419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5600445340685091763.post-65593043350976966572011-04-19T06:27:12.330-07:002011-04-19T06:27:12.330-07:00Hey, well done.
Tough love, must have been hard f...Hey, well done.<br /><br />Tough love, must have been hard for you. Must be bad for her to, but she'll twist it to make you the bad guy.<br /><br />When she realises she's messed up, as long as you're always clear you love her and will help her in any way other than supporting her habit, that when she's clean, she's welcome and you'll stand beside her, she'll thank you for this.Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17928403879981792388noreply@blogger.com